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It’s 39 degrees this morning in Cleveland. Cloudy skies, light breeze. I love these chilly mornings. I’m sitting in a rocker on our porch with a steaming mug of coffee and a warm coat wrapped around my nightgown and robe, reading this growing comments thread. I can’t respond to each of you, but please know that I read every comment. I so appreciate your thoughtfulness, and I laugh along with you when you bring the humor. I love the community we are building here. Thank you.

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“I blocked out their online identities because I have more followers than they do and Dad always said only a bully punches down.” You really are Wonder Woman, with or without your costume. ⚡️

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I “met” you at a planned parenthood speech. You empowered me in a room of 1000 people, while standing alone on an empty stage. The worse half will always try to hurt the people who know how to create change.

Also, Ms. Piggy is one of the best characters ever created and still (after all of this time) stands as an icon of off-center beauty, determination and femininity. But I know that’s not the point.

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I’ve always thought you to be stunningly beautiful. You exude mindfulness, kindness, love, empowerment. Thank you for what you do for us out here.

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I started a FB group called Voices of Women in 2016,a closed group, right after the election, to give women a safe place to share ideas and talk politics without trolls. I have opinions and am educated and informed and the idiot men who were threatened by me threatened me, and I'd had enough. I figured if I could provide safe haven to a couple of dozen women I'd be doing a service. To my amazement, we now have well over a thousand members from all across the country and from three foreign countries. It's a shame we have to "meet" in safe places but it's one way of defeating the ignorant cruelty of men threatened by smart women. Keep speaking your mind and your truth, Connie. You are a beacon of intelligence and hope. Your column often appears as a post on

VOW!

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Many years ago now, I used to volunteer with a women’s health clinic. I also trained to give fundraising talks for my state’s pro-choice NARAL affiliate. Not sure which of these activities led to receiving death threats over the phone, even though my number was unlisted, but there you go. Cowards hid behind anonymous phone calls then, and use fake identities online now. They’re still full of bluster. Damned if I give in to a blowhard. I’ve gotten a fair bit of nonsense to my face over the years as well, but no one has yet made a cogent, intelligent response that could change my opinion. Funny, that.

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Oh, my heart……why are people so mean…….OY, don’t even try to answer, ellipsis, ellipsis, ellipsis!!!! I am sitting here drinking my coffee, wondering what has created such viciousness but also thanking the Universe for everyone here. Thank you for your bravery and your willingness to be vulnerable. Onward and upward!

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You speak for all of us. Thank you! “Keyboard cowards” is perfect!!

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Keep up the good work. You are an inspiration to women of all ages. I am 83 and worked in IT way back, when it was 90% male. So I experienced so much of what you have. Women have come a long ways, but still a long way to go. I am so encouraged when I see so many women in roles of leadership , especially in law.

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You go, woman. You have a lot to be proud of and that includes your appearance.

Strength and humor are a good combination

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My standard answer for those who fling personal insults is "Contrary to popular belief, I own a scale and a mirror and I use them both. When I see something I don't like, I do my best to change it. The question is, why are you not using yours? When you look in your mirror do you like what you see? Perhaps you should change yourself before you try to change anyone else."

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Nov 3, 2023·edited Nov 3, 2023

I’m sadly shocked at the hateful comments. My first thought when I saw that picture was how gorgeous your hair and complexion! ❤️ I wanted to say that but it felt shallow to comment on your looks 😊

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Forever thankful for your voice in the weeds of the internet.

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Oh Connie, you are such a great example for the rest of us “mouthy” women.Please don’t ever stop being you, because you make the rest of your loyal followers just a little bit better and a little but stronger with each and every post. BTW, I’m giving paid subscription to Hopefully yours to all my daughters and lady friends for Christmas this year! (If I can figure out how to do that just that)

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One of the tragedies of the internet age is most people would never say something like this face to face. And in fact, in person, they might be nice. Over and over, when confronted face to face with their hurtful remarks, people express shame and remorse.

Online, we lose our humanity…one of the things I love about Connie as a person and a writer is she always keeps that human quality front and center. I hope she never stops.

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As usual a wonderful way to deal with the haters,etc. Ad hominem attacks are the weapons of choice for the ignorant and scared. You go girl.

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